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Teachers are there to help your kid achieve in life. This is what majority of teachers do but your kid may encounter bad ones. These teachers do not know how to handle their responsibilities and abuse their power. Instead of using their power to help groom your kids to better people, these teachers bully them. They use their power to condemn, manipulate or ridicule students.  These teachers have no excuse for such behavior and they should know that what they are doing isn’t right and can affect their students negatively. In the event that the bullying is physical, most parents do not hesitate to report incidents. But, when it is emotional and psychological bullying, it is often hard for parents to know what to do. They are also scared that they might make a wrong move and since this involves an adult that is the teacher, one cannot just start accusing teachers without the ability to prove. Well, even though it is good to be cautious, do not let it keep you from taking the right steps. Do not ignore the assumption that your child is being bullied by a teacher but make sure you follow the steps below to solve the problems. Steps to take when your kid is being bullied by a teacher 1. Document everything From the first moment it comes to your attention that your kid is being bullied by his or her teacher, you need to document all activities hence forth. These would mean that you write down dates, times, witnesses, actions and consequences of the teacher bullying activities. Example, if the teacher beats your kid in front of the class, make sure you write down the date, time and what was said and the students that were present. Write down the names of any other person that participated in the bullying as a result of the teacher’s actions and be sure to add their information too. Note that you should report to the police immediately if the bullying is based on physical, cyberbullying or harassment based on race or disability. Depending on the law that governs where you live, some of these acts are considered crimes. 2. Reassure and support your child Talk to your kid and let him or her open up to you. If they do, then you must be very caring and supportive because it is most probable that the bullying would have an effect on their self-esteem. Listen to what they have to say and ask about their opinion on the matter. Always remember, your first priority is to help your child to get over bullying. Do not hesitate to get help by taking them to a counselor. You could also get your kid evaluated by a pediatrician to check for any sign of depression, anxiety issues, and sleep problems. 3. Build your child’s self-esteem You may have the courage to face the bully because you are a parent and not a victim. When dealing with your kids, try to understand [...]

Teaching entrepreneurship to kids is not just a good idea, I believe it should be a part of the school curriculum. This is because it teaches children essential life skills and the earlier they are introduced to the world of business, the bigger the impact on their lives. The skills that they developed by teaching entrepreneurship set the stage for children to have the ability to thrive. The goal is not to manufacture cookie cutter kid businesses. There are underlying values and lessons that children learn through entrepreneurship which gives them the skills that will carry them not only through their academic careers but in their personal and professional lives as well as they grow and become adults. Being an entrepreneur is a great way to make a living and is one of the most enjoyable careers to pursue in one’s life. A lot of entrepreneurs wish that they started at a younger age and many believe that some form of entrepreneurship should be taught to students in school, I agree with them. Getting children involved in school and learning can be as easy as teaching them to be entrepreneurs. The skills learned in starting a business are the same ones that make people successful in life. Children have the opportunity to build communication and organization skills, learn how to be a leader, and how to be a self-promoter, but they also learn much more. Exposure to the world of business and entrepreneurship helps children to develop their overall self-confidence. In order to pursue an entrepreneurial endeavor, it is essential to be able to confidently trade yourself, your product and your service. When learning about entrepreneurship, children are taught to express themselves to other people and how to get their points well across in order to close a deal. Teaching entrepreneurship also often involves communicating with people who a child might not necessarily have come in contact with in any other circumstances. Development of good communication skills is integral to business. Why is Teaching Entrepreneurship to Kids Important? Becoming an entrepreneur is not easy it takes years of practice just like any other profession it takes time before you can become a mentally and physically matured entrepreneur. Entrepreneurship teaches necessary life skills, including communication, financial literacy, marketing skills and risk management all these will help young people grow personally and professionally. Entrepreneurship is about much more than business. It is a way to think of seeing opportunities and of exploring multiple solutions to problems and skills which can be applied to life. Here are a few vital reasons why it is important: 1. Encourages Free Thinking Recognizing and nurturing entrepreneurship in children gives them a chance to think freely and helps them gain self-confidence in their ideas and abilities. Understanding and applying the principles of entrepreneurship helps children realize the outcome of their efforts, unlike that of introducing chores, which are parent-directed. When children do businesses on their own, they learn to try and they get to see the measurable [...]

Growing up involves a lot of experiments and limits testing. Listening to a little one speak is an extremely enjoyable and amusing experience, not only for the parents but also for everyone around. Yet these happy times can turn into moments of acute embarrassment for parents when their little angel starts uttering bad words. And, after it happens once, parents always feel jittery and unsure the next time their little one starts speaking. Most at times, this is shocking to parents because they are careful of the language they use around their children. You start asking where it all came from, when did your angel become such a naughty boy. As always =, parents are quick to blame themselves for every wrong thing that their kids do. You are not always responsible for certain things as a parent, there are times when it is your fault, yes, but not all the time. Children begin using bad words after they’ve heard others use those words, or after those words have been aimed at them. Grownups use this kind of language when they are upset, and the behavior trickles down to the children, usually with the original emotional heat welded to the words. Because harsh behavior spreads like a bad cold from adult to child and then from child to child, just about every child on the planet is exposed to name-calling, or bad words behavior, sooner or later. As much as you the parent are not to blame all the time, the same goes for the child. It is not your child’s fault that he has acquired harsh language, any more than it is his fault that he gets a runny nose. When you child uses harsh language, he may not understand what the words mean literally. It is the tone that makes an imprint on them, and it si the tone that raises parental warning flags. The electric emotional charge irritates the child’s delicate internal system and makes the words stick like in their little innocent minds. Why Does Your Child Use Bad Language? It is a mystery sometimes where children pick up these forbidden words. A child can swear for a variety of reasons. But not necessarily because he understands the meaning of the words, sometimes it’s just to convey hostility or vent out his anger. The following are some of the reasons your child uses bad language: 1. The Home At the beginning of this article, I said you should not always blame yourself for the wrong things your child does, this is a fact. However, there are times when you have to take the responsibility for some of his wrong actions because you are responsible and it is your fault. In this case, what you need to do is watch the language you use at home especially when the kids are around. Children learn by observing and this starts from the home, so if you always use foul language at home, either with your spouse or on the [...]

It can be a little difficult as a parent to teach your kids skills which they require in their day to day activities. You sometimes need your kids to be a little bit more independent, to allow you to attend to other pressing matters. When it comes to kids being independent, while some kids crave freedom and independence from a young age, others need a little push to become confident and self-motivated. While teaching your kids to be independent, allow for plenty of practice time and try different methods of teaching certain skills. Make out time from your busy schedule to give extra time to practice new skills. Getting your kids to be independent does not just happen by magic or on its own, it comes from you instructing and supervising your kids to do some very little stuff for themselves, like brushing their teeth themselves, eating breakfast by themselves or even helping out with packing their own lunch. When your children begin to get independent, it makes things easier for you as a parent. Here a few skills they need to learn while still under your roof: 1. Let Your Kids Handle Some Simple Chores Around the House Assigning to your kids, chores that they can handle completely by themselves helps a great deal in giving them the self-confidence for which they require to be independent now and in the future. Chores like wiping tables, feeding the pet, tidying their bedrooms and washing their hands. You should realize that the older your kids get, the more independent and responsible you should expect them to become. So as they get older, assign more responsibility to them in the domestic front. 2. Teach Your Kids Effective Decision Making By letting your kids handle stuff by themselves, they learn to identify problems and in solving them, they learn to make decisions. This will help them develop rational thinking skills. Encourage your kids to listen to their instincts and to give a thought to the wide range of possible outcomes that may arise from their actions. 3. Let Your Kids Learn to Make Money Your kids learning to make money will go a long way to help them become independent adults. It is never too early to teach your kids that they can put themselves to work in their spare time. Depending on how old your kids are, there are quite a number of businesses they can get themselves involved in, some of which include: i. Dog Walking Busy people need help keeping their dogs fit, and this is a job most kids can handle and have fun while at it. Your child can make some money walking dogs for other adults who do not have the time to walk their dogs. They may as they get older decide to expand to pet washing. ii. Social Media Handlers most teenagers tend to have more experience as concerns social media than the average adult, they may as well offer their services to these adults as [...]

At some point, every parent worries about what their children are going to become in the future. For some, the drama starts really early, the dreams are big and wild, and to them, everything is possible because the world is that simple to them. This is common and very healthy; you should encourage your kids to dream big, it is good to have ambitions in life. The phrase “I want to be an actor” is a common one among kids. By the time they are six, eight, ten, their minds are already made up and some of them would be making steps in the school drama team by this time. This is a very important stage for you to help your child decide on what he wants to do. It is true that dreaming big is a good thing, but the dream has to be something your child is capable of accomplishing. Acting requires a lot of qualities, the person has to be talented, this is not to say your child has to be born an actor, no. like leaders, actors are made not born, yet some are more gifted and talented than others. If your kid has a burning passion for acting and is ready to invest his time and energy to turn that dream into a reality, then you have a huge role to play as a parent. The acting industry is tough, rough and very competitive, which means your child is not the only one looking to become an actor, so if he wants it that bad, he will have to earn it. Why Does Your Child Want To Become An Actor? When your child comes up to you and says ‘mum I want to be an actor’ you need to find out why. You need to determine whether this desire was fueled because he was just watching TV and wants to be famous like some of the kids he saw on TV shows. Maybe he thinks it’s a cool life to be rich and famous as his favorite actors. If this is the case, then you need to have a frank talk with him and make him understand that people don’t become actors because they want to be famous or rich, they become actors because it is what they want to do, and what they love to do. However, if his desire to become an actor is fueled by a pure passion for acting, then he stands a chance. Because if it’s for money, he will fail, if it’s for fame, he will fail. Pretty much any reason other than him having a burning passion for what he wants to do, he will fail. This may seem harsh, but to see the acting industry clearly for what it is, you have to be able to separate yourself from the parent role and look at things from an outside perspective. Does He Have What it Takes? It takes a lot to be an actor, going to an [...]

At some point, almost every child wants to stay home and not go to school. This is perfectly ok and natural, but what if your child doesn’t just want to stay for a day or two, what if he totally does not want to go to school ever? What if he hates school completely and doesn’t want to have anything to do with it? This could be frustrating and annoying especially for very young children, they will cry, shout, wail just to get left alone and at home. There are many reasons that could be responsible for this behavior. Like adults, children always have a reason for the things they do or don’t do. It is also something kids use to test the limits when growing up. They are curious as to how much they can get away with, to what extent are they allowed to make their own choices about the things they do or don’t do. It could be frustrating and tiring, and you need to confront in a way that will not make the child rebel against you. You have to find out the reason why and help the child find his way back to school without using force or punishment. Why Does Your Child Hate School? If you are going to win this battle, first you need to figure out why your child hates school in the first place. Something has to be responsible for this behavior or in some cases, someone. Getting to the root course will get you halfway to the solution. This could be hard, especially if your child is shy or if you are not very much connected to your child. However, the following reasons below could be responsible for your child’s behavior. 1. Teaching style and routines Kids hate routines and unfortunately, that’s all schools do, routines. Kids have to follow rules, stay in class for a period of time, the have to stay quite too, silent, listen and repeat after the teacher, write, draw, some kids find this tiring and boring and would therefore prefer to stay home. The fact that many school still rely primarily on teacher-driven lessons, is not compatible with the preferred learning style of many kids. Schools, most of the time, forget that kids have different ways of learning and the best way to bring the best out of each and every single child is by trying to find out how best each child learns and then help them concentrate on that. Some children learn by listening to others by doing so if you subject one to the other they will feel intimidated and uncomfortable and this can lead to the child running away from school. Some children even go to the extent of pretending to be sick, and in some instances, it takes the parents quite some time for them to realize that their little one is playing a game on them. 2. Inhibited and misunderstood Kids can sometimes be very sensitive and this could [...]

Is your child a little ‘rebel’ with big, cute, fluffy, deaf ears? Well, you are not the only one. When growing up children always tend to test the limits. It can be rather frustrating when your kid just doesn’t do his homework. Parents often feel it is their job to get their kids to do well in school, and yes it is good to take an active interest in your child’s homework, it shows him that what he is doing is important. So naturally, you might get anxious about this responsibility as a parent when your child is refusing to do his homework. Because when you feel it is your responsibility to get your kid to achieve, you now need something from him, you need him to do his homework and you need it to be a success. This puts you in a powerless position as a parent because your kid doesn’t have to give you what you want. Homework becomes a battle over control; you kid starts fighting to have more control over the choices in his life, while you feel that your job as a parent is to be in control of things. Your child isn’t deliberately trying to drive you insane (successful though he may be), and his maddening new behavior has more to do with his sense of self than how he feels about you. Seven and eight-year-olds are experiencing an increasing sense of control over their own lives, and they are focusing more than ever before on the outside world and the interesting things going on there, like school, friends, and sports. Their selective rebellion is one way of testing the limits of their growing independence. It is also a method of dealing with new pressures and responsibilities. Kids this age spend most of the school day following instructions. School is more demanding, so they have fewer opportunities to zone out, de-stress, and exercise their own choices. Because they feel safest at home, it’s the place they are likely to assert themselves and take the time they need to chill out. Often, the way they do that is by demanding some kind of independence at home, or refusing to do certain things in this case, homework. Why Is It Important For Your Child To Do His Homework? Homework is important for your child because it improves his thinking, memory and helps him develop positive study skills and habits that will serve him well throughout life. Homework will encourage him to use time wisely and teach him to work independently. Your child will also learn to take responsibility for his work and this will allow him to review and practice what has been covered in class. Homework helps your child learn to use resources, such as libraries, reference materials, and computer web sites to find information. It encourages him to explore subjects more fully than classroom time permits and this will get him ready for the next day’s class. Homework encourages your child to integrate learning [...]

Some kids can be quite tough to deal with; they have so much negative energy that it is really hard to get them in a good mood. A child with an extreme negative temperament most of the time seems to be in a bad mood. Sometimes you have that child who is always complaining constantly about something, always unhappy and never miss the opportunity to display an unpleasant behavior. This is frustrating for parents, though sometimes it is easy for parents and their children to adopt a pattern of consistency in their interactions that is negative. However, it is possible for this kind of behavior to be transformed into a more positive one. It is good to start with a compromise; you as a parent need a strategy to cope with this situation, something that will work for you and your child. You have to help him burn the negative energy out, guide him through and help him transform into a more positive and happy child. Why is Your Child Always Grumpy? Every problem has a root cause. In this case, however, different reasons could be responsible for your child’s moody behavior. Like always, find the root cause is half the solution. We will look at a few reasons that could be responsible for your child’s moody behavior. Here are a few common reasons: 1. Difficult children Mostly when this happens, parents are quick to blame themselves, thinking that they are responsible for this undesirable behavior. They start asking questions like, where did I go wrong? What have I done wrong in raising this child? Have I been mean to him? Did I treat him so bad that he can’t smile anymore? It is good to ask these questions because you could be responsible, but this Is not always the case. Some kids are naturally born with difficult temperaments and personalities, and you the parent are not responsible for their moody or negative behavior whatsoever. These children are harder to raise and they often provoke the worst parenting, it is just the natural result of being impossible to deal with. Despite all this, you as a loving cannot always blame yourself for your child’s negative personality. 2. Attention Seeking Kids love attention, they crave for it and they long for it from their parents the most. When this attention is not given to them, they will try to get it in their own way. This is most common where there are two or more kids, and one feels left out because he believes that his parents give more attention to his siblings that to him. So it becomes a war over who gets the most attention and obviously the one who feels neglected and left out will turn out to be grumpy and moody. This could also happen where parents are always too busy with work and other things that they hardly have time for their kids.  And the disconnection and distance between these parents and their kids grow wider, they [...]

Children are angels, most of the time sweet, generous and adorable. As they grow and start to interact with the people around them and other children, they start to develop habits and new behaviors. Growing up is a process and involves a lot of things sharing being one of them. Some kids don’t like to share. Whether it is sharing toys, food, or the use of the slide, they just don’t like the idea of sharing, because sharing leaves them with a sense of loss or a diminished experience and not with joy. It’s like your child’s playroom is bursting with toys, yet whenever a friend comes over, your child wants whichever neglected toy his pal reaches for. A struggle ensues, and soon the fun and laughter are replaced with tears and tantrums. This doesn’t mean your child is bad or selfish, it’s just that kids sometimes have a problem practicing the culture of sharing, they are more appreciative of the culture of ownership; to them ‘it’s mine’ is the language they understand the most and prefer it to 'let's share'. Children’s authentic generosity shows up in areas that we often don’t notice or don’t approve of. For example, they assume that guests can stay forever and don’t see why they should leave and they see food in every home as their own. They share clothes and beds easily, they love giving gifts, hugs, and love. Children are generous, it’s just that they also like to keep certain personal things and experiences to themselves, just like adults. Why Kids Don’t Share This is a question that has been asked many times. Why do some kids hate to share? Why would they want to keep it all to themselves even when they don’t need it? Why would a child refuse to hand over the steering wheel at the park even though his turn is over? There are a lot of reasons responsible for this, and as stated above, young children to understand the concept of sharing, they just prefer to keep what’s theirs to themselves. Here are a few common reasons: 1. Kids get it they just don’t care Kids understand the concept of sharing very well, they know what it means, and even accept the fact that they should share. But when it comes to doing the actual sharing, they don’t share. This has been proven in research. Children know that it is good to share and that they should share, they even expect other children to share their stuff with them, but whenever it comes to the actual sharing, they find it difficult to practice what they preach. 2. Sharing is not the culture at home It is true that most parents are so concerned about encouraging their children to share, yet they themselves don’t share and the child is seeing this every day. If sharing is so good why is it that mum never shares her iPhone with her friends or her car with the neighbors? You may [...]

Friendship is very important to children; the feeling of being accepted and approved by others is something children cherish a lot. Which is why, parents are always very concerned when their children find it hard to make friends, and this concern is of course justified. When this happens, don’t jump into conclusion, find out what is going on and see how best you can help your kid make friends. Why is Your Child Not Having Friends? Sometimes it is possible that your child is just overreacting, maybe he just had a fight with his best friends and concluded that he no longer has any friends. However, in instances where he genuinely has no friends, then you need to find a way to help him. Find out why he has no friends, you need to know what is responsible for this situation and help him walk through it and start making friends. Some of the reasons that may be responsible for this are: 1. Shy and Unsure Your child may be the shy type, always keeping to himself, unsure of whether the other kids would want to play with him or accept him to join them. This lack of confidence will definitely affect his ability to connect, interact and mingle with other kids. These kinds of kids are always withdrawn and find it difficult to make small talks or start conversations with other kids. 2. New Environment When you move into a new neighborhood, your kids may find it difficult to make new friends. This is not abnormal, so there is no need for you to overreact, it sometimes takes longer than you’d expect for your kids to adjust to the new environment and start making friends. 3. Aggressive and Non-sharing Kids who don’t like to share naturally find it difficult to make friends. Friendship for children means sharing, sharing toys, games, gadgets, electronics, candy, sweets etc. so when your child is aggressive to other kids and doesn’t like to share, the other kids will not like to play with him and that is what friendship means to kids, playing together, sharing and being nice to one another. 4. Loud, Rude and Unfriendly Sometimes your child may not even realize it, but the problem is with him. He may be rude to the other kids, too loud or sometimes unfriendly in ways that he doesn’t consider unfriendly. This could be because he is sometimes forceful in his demands, grabs things from other kids, overreact when another child does something to him even if it’s accidental or maybe he finds it difficult to say nice things to his peers or even smile or show approval for others. 5. No Attention at Home When you don’t give attention to your kids at home, they feel unimportant, uncared for and this might be responsible for them not being able to make friends. This negative perception that the kids develop about themselves, is what makes them feel unworthy and not good enough for the other [...]