We may not realize it, but our reactions to our kids’ failures can have lasting effects on how they process the setback and move on, how resilient and self-confident they become, and how they handle mistakes and failures for the rest of their lives. Note that when a child makes a mistake and is reprimanded or criticized, it prevents him from learning from the mistake. The thing is, he feels so ashamed and put down by the reprimand that he wants to put the whole event out of his memory and so he tries to forget about it, and so the next time when the same situation arises he’s more likely to make the same mistake again. Also, remember that everyone makes mistakes and that means your kids are no exception to the case. They will make mistakes until they learn and begin to act properly.
Some of the tricks parents can use when correcting kids mistakes
1. Make it pleasant!
The celebration of a mistake completely prevents a tantrum and puts the child in a great mood. When a child makes a mistake, he automatically feels ashamed and embarrassed on his own. We definitely don’t need to add to it! In fact, by celebrating and making light of the mistake, we save the child from his shame and teach him to accept himself with his imperfections. That pleasure will ensure that he remembers and learns from the event!
2. Reprimands do more harm than good
Let’s say a child lost 10 dollars on the way home from the store. The best course of action is not to show any reaction. Say, “OK, don’t worry about it, everybody makes mistakes.” He will feel guilty enough by himself. Don’t even adults occasionally lose things? Next time he goes to the store you can remind him to be very careful with the change. “Keep it in a wallet in a special pocket all by itself because I need that money to buy something else important.” Respecting him in this way will teach him to rise to the occasion and be more responsible. Reprimands only do harm.
3. Tolerate mischief with a smile
When reprimands are rare, it may cause the children to perk up and think. But the more often they are heard, the less they will be heeded. Amazingly and paradoxically, the less you point out mistakes the more likely that when you do, although it can do some harm, it may be well taken. This is not easy but is very good if you can try as best as possible to even smile at little mistakes they make. If you are a parent that does not shout when the kids spill milk or do a little mistake here and there and point out less of their mistakes when they cause harm. The day when they that parent should raise a dissent, then the kids will feel an impact immediately because it would really tell that mum or dad is pissed.
4. Be ever so gentle
In addition, instead of criticizing and giving instructions: “You shouldn’t have done it that way, you should’ve done it this way,” you can ask the child, “Are you happy with the way things turned out?” This allows him room to decipher himself where he needs improvement. Such a realization is much more likely to stick because it comes from inside himself and not really from the parents. Not only is celebrating mistakes a great way to get children to learn but it will do wonders for the parent-child relationship, which is the most crucial element in any child’s life! Do not take things personally. Your kid is still learning and at times they will do things that they had no intention of doing or do not know the repercussion of their actions. So, exercise control over your emotions and be gentle as best as you can.
Steps to take for your kid when they make mistakes
1. Observe your child’s reaction
Take your cue from your child’s reaction to the loss. That is how you can know the way to approach the situation. Is she happy because she tried his best? Is she angry at herself for failing? If she’s angry or upset with himself or herself with the loss, try to help him channel that feeling into a desire to try his best the next time.
2. Focus on the future
Instead of talking about the loss, focus on how to do it better the next time. Or how to avoid making that mistake again. Remind your child that whatever went wrong can be a very useful and educational tool in figuring out what to do or not do in the future. It is important to teach them how to make the most of any bad situation and that mistakes, one cannot learn or improve.
3. Picture yourself as an observer
Watch how you react to the mistake your child made. It is hard but try to evaluate yourself by asking personal questions about your approach to the matter. Things like would you think this person was being supportive and giving useful advice? Would you think she was speaking in a warm and relaxed manner? Or would she sound harsh, critical, or negative? Picture yourself being motivating instead of discouraging or listen to yourself while you speak.
4. Put more emphasis on the process rather than the outcome
Talk about what was fun, what she did and didn’t like, and what she thinks could be done better the next time. Help her channel her energy into strategizing for the future and focus on the fun and satisfaction of learning, rather than winning.
5. Don’t give your child pity
When you try to comfort your child, be careful not to give her pity, which can send a harmful message—that she isn’t capable. Instead of saying, ‘I’m so sorry you can’t do this,’ acknowledge what went poorly and focus on finding a solution.
6. Don’t try to fix his mistake
Trying to fix your kids failure or mistake is not going to make a difference, in fact, it might worsen the situation. Jumping in to fix the error yourself is helicopter parenting. Showing him how to find ways to figure out what to do himself is helping. So invest in that area of teaching him or her, what is right in order to avoid such mistakes, serves a better purpose.
7. Remind her of your unshakable love
Finally, reassure your child that you always have her back and that you’ll be there for her to talk to about her feelings and thoughts about any mistake she makes. Make sure that she knows that your love is something she can always count on, no matter what the mistake is, and that she can come and confide in you.
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