What To Do When Your Child Runs Away From Home or Threatens To
School-aged kids threaten to skip town over things like not wanting to do their homework, wanting more screen-time or in hopes of a later bedtime. Other times the threat is said in anger or as a way to manipulate you. Your child knows that it will break your heart if he says he wants to leave. Whatever the reason, laughing it off, getting angry or taking it personally won’t help the situation. Kids run away all the time, most run away experiences are brief and are concluded when the child realizes that hiding at a friend’s or the park is actually boring and sometimes a little bit scary, and maybe the whole leaving home thing was a bit of an over-reaction. Parents watch with gratitude and relief, but also sometimes mixed with anger as their son or daughter sheepishly returns home, shoulders slumped, defeated. Despite the intensity of the emotions you are experiencing as a parent, it is important to keep calm in order to have the necessary energy to take the needed step to figure out why this happened in the first place and come up with a solution that will ensure that it never happens ever again. In cases where your child threatens to run away, stay calm, tell him that you would really miss him and you don’t want him to run away. By doing this, you are making them feel like they do have control and that you are hoping they make the choice to stay with the family. But don’t roll over and give in to his demands. This is not advisable because then every time he wants something he will threaten to leave home if he doesn’t have it. You cannot say things like “I would really miss you if you run away so you can watch TV as much as you want, just don’t run away”. However, you can negotiate terms. To kids, running away is like taking a long, dangerous timeout. They may use it to avoid some difficulty at home or to hide from their parents after doing something wrong. It could be a power struggle because kids will often run instead of taking responsibility for their actions or complying with house rules. Above all, as a parent, remember, what you don’t want to do is to give this new habit, or threat, power. Why Would Your Child Tend To Run Away? This is the lead question you need to answer if you are going to solve this problem in the first place. Sometimes, a child becomes extremely emotional often disproportionately to the actual incident and feels a need to fight or flee. Knowing that the fighting is certain to end badly, fleeing becomes a far better option for him, hence the running away or threatening to run away. Here are different kinds of kids to try to run away from home: 1. The refugee This child has had enough and just wants to be left alone. Sometimes parents are overbearing, [...]