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What To Do When Your Teenage Child Doesn’t Want To Do Chores

Parents generally get caught in a nagging cycle out of habit; we get stuck in repetitive behaviors just like kids do. Personally, I think giving a general reminder is fine. It’s perfectly okay for parents to say, “All right guys, let’s get to work now.” But after that, they need to get started. The problem with nagging, of course, is that it doesn’t work. Too many times, parents continue to do things that don’t work because they don’t have any other options. Once you turn your back on your child, they stop doing their chores—and then you have to get back on top of them, and the whole cycle repeats itself. With teenagers, this can very frustrating because they can be very annoying with their remarks and smirks or sarcasm, which can just make you get really mad. If you feel like you’re constantly on top of your teenage kids, trying to get them to do their household chores, here are some effective things you can do to give yourself—and them—a break. Steps to follow to get your teenage kids to do chores 1. Stop the show I personally believe that parents really need to learn to stop the show. You might wonder, what does this mean? If your child is not doing his chores, you simply stop everything and tell him or her to have a seat and talk to them about it. You must have a conversation with your kid because, at their age, they are matured enough to understand what they are doing. Find out what his plans are after he finishes the chores and try to motivate him to do it so that he can get enough time to focus on whatever he wants to do later. Appealing to your kid's self-interest is way effective than explaining the abstract concept of responsibility because at their age they actually know their responsibility but do not want to do it. 2. Do not turn the chore into punishment Parents are advised not to use chores as a means of punishment. If somebody misbehaves and does something wrong, don’t give them a consequence of doing the dishes for example. The only time this is acceptable is when your child does something wrong to another sibling. In order to make amends—to right the wrong—they do that person’s chore for them. That’s a physical way of saying, “I was wrong to do that and I’m doing your chore to show you that I’m sincere.” That’s the only time when I advocate that parents use chores as something more than an assigned task. 3. Assign Specific Chores Ahead of Time Asking your teen to do a spontaneous chore can lead to an argument. Put yourself in that situation, where your boss keeps giving you random assignments at work which makes you close late or interferes with your schedule, you would definitely be upset.  If you see your teen watching TV on Saturday morning and you suddenly ask, "Can you please clean the [...]

By | 2018-08-02T14:47:00+00:00 August 3rd, 2018|Uncategorized|0 Comments

What To Do When Your Kid Has Poor Grades

Parents are their child’s first and most important teacher. This is why parents and teachers ought to be involved in their children’s schools and children will do better and have better feelings about going to school. Studies have also shown that what the families do is more important to a child’s school success than how much they spend on the kid or make or the education they have. The truth is that kids that have been doing good at school before may begin to do poorly at their grades at times. These may be due to several reasons like: 1. Bullying This can tremendously affect a kid's grades because bullying can be so physically, emotionally and psychologically damaging. When a kid is being bullied for being a straight A student or for other kids of reasons, he or she becomes very disturbed and will it hard to continue to do or be his very best. If people keep condemning you for being smart, you might just end up being dumb purposely in order to avoid the bullying. This happens to kids a lot, especially when they are left alone to handle the situation with no adult help from parents or teachers. 2. Alcohol intake The news that high school kids drink, should not come as news to you. It has been published in the Journal for Health and Social Behaviour that alcohol consumption leads to increased social stress and poor grades. 3. Overworked Sometimes this can be due to being involved n so many things at the same time. For high school kids, they tend to take on more than one odd job and this causes them to lack sleep. The effect of lack of sleep results in poor concentration and inability to learn or absorb information which leads to poor grades. 4. Lack of excitement again Some kids may find school boring because they probably know what is being taught already and do not feel challenged. They tend to just relax and not read anymore, however, this reflects on their grades. Sometimes it may be due to vision or hearing problems which will affect the kid’s concentration. It is also seen that students who like their teachers perform better than those who don’t. 5. Death of a loved one Students that have experienced the death of a close relative are likely to pay less attention to their studies. Likewise, students from broken families, where parents often fight or are divorced will most likely underperform at school and at times even to college. There are so many reasons why kids grades are poor but below are tips on how you as a parent or guardian can help them improve on it. 1. Meet your child’s teacher When the school year starts, find a way to meet your child’s teacher. You should let the teacher know that you are concerned about your kid’s education and want him to learn. Make it clear that she or he should contact you if there [...]

By | 2018-08-02T14:26:26+00:00 August 2nd, 2018|Uncategorized|0 Comments

What To Do When Your Child is Being Bullied at School

This is one of the most dangerous situations a kid could pass through. It has life-long repercussion on the one being bullied and can really ruin the life. Kids these days are so open to various forms of bullying and parents hardly get to know until it’s too late because kids do not say anything at times. Another thing is that, for those kids that speak up, their parents may take a wrong approach to the matter and make it even worst or some might even ignore and tell the kid to man up especially if it is a boy involved. Kids that are different, weaker physical and often powerless are those that get picked on a lot and so, they need the most protection and support. This can only come from parents that love and care for their children. Parents should know that kids do not always come to tell you that they are being bullied; some kids bear the shame and humiliation alone but exhibit it through some signs. It is the responsibility of every parent to take note of these signs and the steps that will be listed below in order to help your kid when he or she is being bullied. Signs to look for when your kid is being bullied at school When your kid begins to refuse to go to school Recurring stomachache, headache, and other physical complaints Agitation and moodiness which has no genuine reason Lack of sleep including nightmares and difficulty falling asleep Lack of appetite and changes in eating habits Bedwetting Appearing sad, sometimes lonely and anxious with no cause at all for such attitude Less socialization by avoiding peer interaction after school and on weekends Wanting to be a lone more often Unwilling to do other things and sulking most times Feeling less capable and low self-esteem Afraid of riding the bus to school Sudden change in school performance, through poor grades Communication about suicide through statements or social media posts eg “no one will care if I died today” The most obvious sign or one that parents take note of, is the refusal to go to school. Especially if it is a kid that used to feel really happy to attend classes and do assignments. So, when such a kid suddenly changes their behavior and you can see any reason as to why they would not want to go to school, then this raise a red flag and this lets parents assume that there must be something wrong with his peers or at school. Anyway, if your notice some or few of those signs stated above make the effort to find out if it is bullying. It is better you clear out your doubts than regret later. In the event that your kid is being bullied, try to follow the steps below which is listed to handle the matter properly. 1. Avoid making assumptions The most important thing is to have an open mind. Do not try to find [...]

By | 2018-08-02T14:18:46+00:00 August 2nd, 2018|Uncategorized|0 Comments

What To Do When Your Kid Suffers Anxiety and Stress From School

As our education standard rises, so is the demand from our kids today. This can really have a toll on them and they might suffer from stress and anxiety. It might not be too obvious but it is quite real that kids as young as those in kindergarten and most especially in primary school face a lot of academic activities that might affect them physically at times. All kids are not the same and some may be facing quite a hard time coping with all of the academic requirements and lessons or even adjusting to the class they are in. Many experts have stated that our kids today are under more stress than those of the previous generations. In 2011, an article in the American Journal of Play, researcher Peter Gray found kids have to spend much more time on school and adult-directed activities than their parents or grandparents did. There are a lot of expectations from kids these days and a lot of standards set for their educational achievement to each grade that they complete. For example, kindergarten kids are expected to be able to read by the end of the year compared to previous years. Kids can get diagnosed with ADHD as early as when as they are in kindergarten. They get easily distracted by the things they see around them and feel anxious when they sit still for too long alone. At times teachers may not understand these situations and demand a lot from their pupils, these can add to the kids' stress and at the end of the day, the kid can develop an anxiety disorder. Parents too can contribute to their kids stress unknowingly by involving them in so many activities. As their work increases so do their stress levels for both parents and students. The stress is having an imminent effect on kid’s health both physically and mentally. When it comes to the standardized test, kids anxiety can particularly grow higher and this results in bad or poor grades. Some of the effects of the stress are lack of sleep, restlessness and when the test actually starts, the kid may just shut down. Regardless of the fact that we want our kids to handle all kinds of stressful situations in careers, relationships and other life-related scenarios, too much stress may have the opposite lesson on a kid. When kids are overscheduled, it becomes very hard for them to focus on the books alone and they struggle with all the other activities. Take an example where, a kid has other activities apart from school to go to, things like dance, basketball, and karate. Having skipped to a more demanding class finds it hard to come up with these other activities and begins to stress out. Has no time for home works and finds no pleasure in whatever she does due to exhaustion. Kids with tight schedules as these end up suffering from stomach aches and other physical ailments that only seem to come up at [...]

By | 2018-08-02T13:58:47+00:00 August 2nd, 2018|Uncategorized|0 Comments

What To Do When Your Kid Lies and Cheat

Lying and cheating are not good characters that any parent would be proud that their kid possesses. One may also wonder with how little they may be sometimes, what makes kid lie and cheat. They can fabricate stories and you wonder where they got these ideas from. Well, you should know that lying peaks between the ages of 6 and 10. A study at the University of Waterloo, in Ontario, observed that some kids at 4 years lied once every two hours, some 6 years old kids lied at a clip of every 90 minutes. This could be due to the assumption that kids at this age, do not really understand the consequences of lying. It is believed that kids lie at different stages like these: From 0 to 3, kids are in a confused state where they are dependent on adults for their survival. Things that look like lies are often honest mistakes, or efforts to protect themselves or an adaptation of what they hear or see. Children that are age 3 to 7 are still figuring out the difference between fantasy and reality. They create imaginary worlds to play in. From 5 to 10 kids slowly develop an understanding of what it means to lie. This is a stage where they become aware of what lying is even they might not grab the full consequences of the action. From 10 upward, they know perfectly well what lying and cheating is and the full consequences of their actions. So when dealing with a lying and cheating kid use the best-suited technique that will match their age and understanding: Here are some tips on how to deal with a lying and cheating child 1. Act cool One of the mistakes parents do is to get really upset or start expressing their anger quickly or disappointment.  It is not easy to stay calm but remember that as parents our kids observe our every move. Because of this, we have to be role models and at all times and so, we must exhibit good characters. If you want your kids to be honest, then act that way towards others and in whatever you do. You cannot be dishonest, lying or cheating and expect your kid to do differently. Remember that kids learn from our actions, so if you do even a little dishonest act like taking too much change or even telling a friend that you are on your way while you still at home, all of these can set an example for your kid. Stay calm as best as you can. Getting angry will not make your kid change automatically when they lie or cheat. If you do get angry it will take the focus off the issue and put it on how you reacted to what he did. If you just discovered that your kid lied to you or cheated on a test at school, calm down and count to 10. Do not immediately approach them but let them be [...]

By | 2018-08-02T13:44:41+00:00 August 2nd, 2018|Uncategorized|0 Comments

What To Do When Your Kid is Addicted to YouTube

YouTube has been a life saver for many parents today and you do not have to feel ashamed if you are one of them. You might have been very happy to have had something that caught your kid’s attention and made them have fun and let you do what you needed to do at that time. But as time went by, you just discovered that your kid only wants YouTube and nothing else, in fact, he or she cries for it, begs for it and just has all their attention on the screen. Perhaps that was when you knew that something was wrong but you might not be sure whether your kids addicted or not. And you probably do not have a clue what to do about it too. Well, this article will settle your worries and answer the questions you have been asking yourself. Signs that tell you that your kid is addicted to YouTube Spending too much time in front of a screen has been linked to a lack of sleep, speech delays, and even poor social skills. But based on a research conducted out of the University of Michigan, the bigger issue is ‘whether screen use causes problems in other areas of life or has become an all-consuming activity’. If your answer to this question is yes, then it is considered screen addiction. 1. Your child can’t control their screen use When your kid begins to find it difficult to let go of the screen, it is a clear sign of screen addiction. If you have tried to impose limits on the screen time but your kid just could not follow through, then this could be an issue. 2. Loss of interest in other activities Take note if your kid only focuses on the screen and nothing else. If playing YouTube is the only thing that motivates your child. You will have to take this seriously if books, toys, and sports do not get them as excited as YouTube. This will mean that they are investing too much time on their screen. 3. Preoccupies your kid's thoughts When your kid is always talking about YouTube videos even when he or she isn’t with the screen and always wondering what his favorite YouTuber will post next. Or even acting out scenes from angry birds, these could be a sign that your kid’s addicted. This means that they will not be able to concentrate on other activities like school work, or books or extra-curricular activities. 4. It interferes with socialization When your child prefers spending time with his tablet than with family and friends, then it is a sign of screen addiction. You might notice that your kid brings his or her phone to the dining table or sneaks peaks at his tablet while his grandmother tries to make conversation or prefers staying indoors than going out to play with friends. This should grab your attention. 5. Screen use cause serious family problems If you and your kid have [...]

By | 2018-08-02T13:09:43+00:00 August 2nd, 2018|Uncategorized|0 Comments

What To Do When Your Kid Has Stage Fright

It is not easy to just stand in front of a large crowd and speak out especially when you are not prepared. This is quite hard for adults to talk less of kids that are just learning new things every day. It is very challenging for children to comfortably stand and present a poem speech etc in front of known and unknown faces or even within their class at times. This is normal and your kid should not feel less confident because all that is needed to overcome this fear is practice. First of all, you should know that public speaking for kids has a lot of benefits and this is the most reason why you should help your kid speak in public. Why your kid should speak in public 1. It is a much-needed skill There is no way that your kid will avoid ever speaking in public whether he is in a private or public school. They will have to do oral presentations and other activities in front of classmates and teachers. Kids that do not have the ability to speak out are going to get panic stricken and overwhelmed each time they are called and this can be very damaging to a child psychologically. Besides not every school teaches public speaking skills so it is important that you teach your kid so that he or she will excel in his grades and would not shy away from activities that require him or her to speak publicly. 2. It helps boost their confidence Public speaking skills help your kid to become more confident and develop the character of boldness. By being able to speak in public your kid will exhibit that ability to face a crowd and express himself fluently which will be beneficial to him in the future. 3. It is a life-long skill It is a life-long skill that your kid will need at some point in time in his life. This is because almost everybody speaks in public at some point in their lives especially if they assume a leadership role. By becoming confident and capable speaking your kid puts himself above many other people who refuse to stand up and speak. You never know what your kid may end up doing so by learning these skills your kid will be able to use it wherever they find themselves. 4. It helps improve their knowledge Public speaking gives your kid the opportunity to improve on their knowledge. You are given a topic to work on most likely something that you have no clue on and this gets you to research and find out things pertaining to the topic, thereby making you more informed. The fact that your kid has gone through the preparation of the speech and worked on how to communicate with others effectively makes him or her understand the content much better. Tips on how you can make your kid a good public speaker Invite family members who will help rather than be [...]

By | 2018-08-01T18:02:15+00:00 August 1st, 2018|Uncategorized|0 Comments

What To Do When Your Kid Wants To Start a Candle Making Home Business

It is good to always help your kids out to achieve their fullest potential. In this age and time, kids grow up fast and they are very capable of doing so many things. They could start and run a business if you help them too, they could make millions through the tiniest little ideas. If your kid comes up with the idea or has a desire to make candles at home for sale, make sure to encourage him or her and help them to achieve this dream. Candlemakers are artisans because their work requires creativity and craft and a whole lot of patience and include a lot of beauty. If your kid wants to make candles, then they must have a love for the craft of candle making and have skills involved in sales and marketing which is very important. You kid can start modestly in the kitchen or storage space of your home or apartment and with little capital. Your kid will need to make their product special because it is what will make them different from other competitors. To help your kid begin a candle making business at home, follow all of the information provided and the steps that will be explained below. If you have no idea of candle making, do not be scared because candle making is not as hard as you think. Here are key responsibilities of a candle marker which your kid should know: Ordering and storing raw products that you will need, including wax, wicks, containers, essential fragrance oils and colors. Constantly researching and reaching out to possible sales venues online and or in the physical world. Creating and regularly updating your website (if your kids decide to have one) and pages like Facebook etc. of their arts and craft Meeting or making contact with your customers, whether online or in personal encounters. Creating your candles and related products as needed Photographing your product line to maximum advantage so that your merchandise looks appealing online. Steps to get started 1. Plan your business A clear plan is essential for success as an entrepreneur. A few important topics to consider are your initial costs, your target market, and how long it will take you to break even. 2. Getting the skills required Most start this business as a hobby. This could be a good start for your kid too. Try to make sure that they have a passion for aesthetics of making candles and other items related to it. Your kid needs to know the basics of making candles, also e-commerce and how to establish an online presence. All of these skills are very important to make a good presentation of the products online. Your kid needs to believe in their product to sell it in person too. As a parent, you would have to help out in these areas because he or she can’t do it all alone. There is nothing wrong in doing a little more research on some o the points [...]

By | 2018-08-01T16:23:31+00:00 August 1st, 2018|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Entrepreneurship Skills For Kids to Learn

Starting a business for anyone can be very challenging because it requires an immense amount of applied skills to be successful. Kids are not an exception to these challenges and they face an even greater chance of being overwhelmed by it. It is not their fault that they do not acquire the skill that will help them scale through the huddle of starting up a business and that is why you need to teach your kid skills that will prepare him or her for entrepreneurship. Schools do not teach the skills required for business today; it is more of a systematized education which only is limited to on conventional subject areas. Therefore, parents need to be the educators to their kids and teach them the qualities that will help them grow into an entrepreneur. It is very important that you develop the mindset of your kid at early ages. At tender ages, kids learn very quickly and absorb information at a fast rate which makes it easy for them to let it become part of their character as they are still learning. There is also enough time for them to implement what you teach them in various ways. Being a parent is a great responsibility and so, it is your duty to teach your kid these entrepreneurship skills so that he or she will be able to live a more successful and trouble-free life in the future. Here are the skills your kid should learn 1. Self-confidence and optimism There is a need for entrepreneurs to be confident. This confidence means that they believe in their capabilities and potential. That they know what they want and can dare to dream and work to achieve it. Confidence gives them the ability to take risks that other people would not dare to take and still hold up their head high. Optimism helps them to look forward to their business venture with hope and a positive mindset. An optimistic outlook gives many entrepreneurs hope that their visions will be achievable. Share positive stories and inspirational talks with your kid via social media to cultivate gratitude and encourage positive thinking. You should help them with their confidence by encouraging them with their decisions and giving them that chance to make decisions. By doing this, you are giving them the opportunity to learn how to be confident in the choices they make and to get experiences from the results that follow. Motivate your kid with lots of assurance and not critics when they fail because this might make them guilty. With the support, they will feel comfortable taking a calculated risk in the future. Parents are the best tutors in teaching them entrepreneurship skills. This is because parents are with their kids from when they are born and learning takes place at an early age so, it is very easy to teach your kid the skills needed. One of the easiest and effective ways is to imbibe the entrepreneurship skills in your child by different [...]

By | 2018-08-01T16:15:46+00:00 August 1st, 2018|Uncategorized|0 Comments

What To Do When You Want Your Kid to Become an Entrepreneur

The current education system does not give room for lessons on entrepreneurship and so you as a parent are given an enormous responsibility of educating your kid on these skills. The current school system does not align with the 21st Century student needs or the changes that are going on in our world socially and economically.  In addition, the unknown jobs of tomorrow do not match the educational lessons being taught today and so, the common belief that your kid may secure a job right after college is not realistic. Colleges might not always be the best option for your kid. There is also a high chance that your kid does not work in the field he or she studied but rather work in a low-paying entry-level position. With all of these reasons above, it is best to prepare your kid and encourage them to be part of the next generation of innovators. Below are some steps you could teach your kid in order to inspire them and encourage them to become entrepreneurs: 1. Encourage divergent thinking To bring out that character of entrepreneurship your kid, you have to make them curious. Encourage them to ask questions, research and to ask for further information. They need to take notice of what is happening around them especially what happens in their daily lives. For example, you could ask your kid to find solutions to problems that you see around you. So if you see a problem that worries you, you could just draw the attention of your kid and ask them how they would solve the problem or perhaps make it better. Let your kid give their opinion and let them analysis and make connections on how to create a solution. Do not give them ideas or correct them when they go wrong, instead you could just give them hints after they are done and you could both ponder on the matter together. Try to use any opportunity that comes your way to practice divergent thinking at home. 2. Create a safe-space for ideas When there is no condemnation or fear, kids feel free to express themselves. The only way divergent thinking can strive is only in a place where everyone is free to think and express themselves without thinking of any consequences. So, where there is a chance for risk-taking and fast failure with no condemnation, there is a lot of ideas to share. Kids are more likely to share ideas when they are safe and this allows them to step out of their comfort zone to take up challenges. Try to create a safe space or room or even a time when all ideas are allowed and valid so that this can support divergent thinking and increase creativity. 3. Challenge Ideas Teach your kid to not be satisfied with the norm. Encourage your kid to ask why we do things in such a manner or time. Teach them that not to conform to a system or process that is [...]

By | 2018-08-01T15:32:03+00:00 August 1st, 2018|Uncategorized|0 Comments